I don't want the easy way out... | Weekly Wisdom

I don’t want the easy way out.

The hard is what makes it special. 

Do you want to be proud of yourself? 

Well, I already know the answer to that. We all do.

If you get given everything in life I guarantee you’ll struggle to look at yourself in the mirror and be proud of who looks back.

The hardship,

The uncertainty.

All the times you showed up, even when you didn’t want to. When it wasn’t likely that things would go the way you wanted, yet you stood there, looked a the playing field and ran on, chased the ball, shot at goal, missed a few times but gave it a red hot crack. Learnt a thing or two.

When you show up that way time and time again you stack this evidence that you are the person you say you are, you are the person that is capable and deserving of achieving anything and everything you want in life.

The price tag? One worth paying. Regardless of the number on it.

Because what’s the alternative? Not give anything a go? Put out to the universe that you deserve the world when your actions reflect the opposite of trying?

I hate the break it to you, but that not how life works.

I don’t want the easy way out. As I mentioned in last week’s newsletter, when you look back at your life, the most life changing moments have been the hardest ones.

So why don’t we want the suffering? We don’t want it because we are too busy looking at our short-term feeling as opposed to our long-term. We need to zoom out, check in on ourselves in 5 years, see how we’re going in 10 years time, live it, feel it, embrace it, get a glimpse of what its like on the other side. Then go back to your reality, the hard time you’re going through, and keep moving forward.

Give that challenging time a massive upper cut and let it know that it can’t stop you. 

If it knocks you down, GOOD. Character building.

If it makes you feel weak, uncertain, inferior, insecure, isolated, GOOD. 

And why is that good Chris?

Well, this challenging time will make you a little less weak, a little less uncertain, superior, secure and connected.

It will make you feel more like yourself. If you go through enough of these times that is.

You see, my upbringing was quite smooth sailing. I’m grateful for how well my parents raised me. When I refer to my journey and touch on “all of the shit that I went through”, I’m not referring to my early years.

All of my “shit” was self inflicted. I put it all on myself, knowing it was going to be hard. Well, it didn’t start out that way. I was extremely naive to what I was getting myself into. I thought it was going to be a walk in the park. Boy I was wrong.

My naivety and my delusion made me set this extreme expectation for what my life had to be like. Extremely successful, lots of money, freedom, nice things left right and centre.

These extreme expectations on what my life has to be, were set in a naive state of my life where I didn’t think achieving that was going to be as severe of a journey as its been, and I’m not even anywhere near that level of success yet.

That delusion set the standard, and in order to achieve that, I’ve have self inflicted extreme challenges in my life in pursuit of fulfilling those expectations I set as a 16 year old boy with big dreams.

Fast forward 7 years and I’m no where near where I want to be, but I’m sure a whole lot further than I ever thought I could be in some of those dark times.

When I look back on my life now, I’m proud I took a punt on myself, I’m proud that I kept going down the hard route, even though there were hundreds of easy routes staring at me, inviting me in, giving me a “no brainer” offer to walk down their path and do a fucking good job walking down it too. But that wouldn’t be a good job in my books. It would be a waste of dreams. Another unfulfilled life, just like all the other ones next to me in the graveyard.

People around you care about you, but sometimes they care too much and get in the way of the path you’re put on this earth to walk. Don’t let them.

Walk the path you know your heart desires, and no matter the challenge, no matter the amount of times you get beaten down, smacked across the face, left to bleed, you dust yourself off, give that hard time a big old upper cut, look it dead in the eyes and say “you can’t fucking stop me, no matter how hard you try”, then keep moving forward, unfazed, like the boss of your own life. Just as you should be…

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Love you all,

Chris