People wanna blame the mirror for what they see in it... | Weekly Wisdom

People wanna blame the mirror for what they see in it…

The man in the mirror

Is everything that’s wrong.

Though I blamed the world,

It was him all along…

I get much older and alone

And my problems grow bigger.

Yet I still don’t wanna blame,

The man in the mirror…

When you blame the mirror for what you see in it, fundamentally, you are wrong.

The mirror provides nothing but the reflection of a harsh truth.

Take ownership. When you don’t like what you see in someone, something or somewhere, there is a mirror stood in-front of you trying to teach you a massive lesson about yourself.

Take that lesson, and grow.

I really like to strip it right back and ask myself “what actually matters in life?”

Let me tell you, when answering this question, one of the things I DON’T write is “blaming others”

I write things like progress, connection to self, connection to others, something to strive towards, a mission and a purpose.

When you blame the mirror you are stripping away all of your opportunity to feel and experience the things I’ve just listed. You won’t grow (progress), you wont have a strong connection to yourself because you’re too busy blaming all of your problems on someone or something. The strength of connection with self heavily comes down to the stack of proof we have that says we are who we say we are. 

If we blame, we strip away the opportunity to take ownership. A short term gratification is what you’re choosing instead of a lifelong gain of one’s betterment.

But why do people blame Chris?

This answer is easy. When you blame you get an instant dopamine hit. You’ve pushed the problem onto someone else and signalled to yourself that there is no problem with you. You get a kick out of that, have a few feel good feelings, some adrenaline run through your spine and then you move on. It’s easy. Of course people do it. Most of our decisions are made with convenience at the forefront, and this is a pretty damn convenient option.

Let me tell you what’s not convenient.

Taking ownership. Blaming it on what you see in the mirror rather than the mirror itself. Because that requires hard work, that requires all the times you get slammed on your face when no one is watching and it’s your job to get back up and act like nothing happened. 

Taking ownership is equivalent to you stepping foot into a massive dark tunnel. You can’t see the end, you don’t know how far the end is, however you have to have the trust that there is an end and continue to take steps in the dark, hoping there is a rainbow on the other side.

You see, sometimes you get to the other side and there isn’t a rainbow, rather another dragon you need to take on. But by that point, you’re not phased because on that journey through the dark tunnel, you realise it’s not about the destination or the rainbow on the other side. It’s not about the journey either. It’s about the character you build along that journey that truely matters.

Taking ownership is the catalyst for building character, the most valuable thing we can obtain.

Take more ownership, build more character. Sounds like a plan to me.

Thank you for reading. Have the most amazing week and hold those commitments to yourself.

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Chris xo